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Photographed by Lauren Perlstein.AdvertisementAnd, while I tried my best to fit in, I couldn’t escape the misconceptions raised about my hair from white classmates at my predominately white, all-girls, private middle and Moncler Women Jackets Black Friday Sales high school. Moncler Kids Coats Black Friday Sale Some peers, uninvited, ran their fingers through my hair, remarking with looks of disdain over how “kinky” it felt (during times when my press and curl wore out). During an overnight class retreat, I struggled to find the words to explain why I wrapped my hair with a silk scarf at night. It actually took me a minute to Moncler Women Coats Sale figure out why my cabin mates were warily eyeing me, until one asked, “Why are you wearing that…thing on your head,” gesturing to her own. I offered the best explanation I could think of: “It keeps my hair straight.”
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